Comments on: Relationship or one-night stand: How law firms view associates (and clients) http://lifeatthebar.com/blog/index.php/2007/11/19/relationship-or-one-night-stand-how-law-firms-view-associates-and-clients-2/ Attorney development coaching for associates and partners Mon, 30 Aug 2010 08:35:23 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8 hourly 1 By: Julie Fleming-Brown http://lifeatthebar.com/blog/index.php/2007/11/19/relationship-or-one-night-stand-how-law-firms-view-associates-and-clients-2/comment-page-1/#comment-1733 Julie Fleming-Brown Wed, 21 Nov 2007 02:03:43 +0000 http://www.lifeatthebar.com/blog/index.php/2007/11/19/relationship-or-one-night-stand-how-law-firms-view-associates-and-clients-2/#comment-1733 Peter, you make some terrific points. I think it's possible to take an appropriately personal interest in people at work... A warm professional relationship. The tough part comes in defining where the line is between appropriate and inappropriate. And people will likely vary widely as to where the line is. Few if any of us would want to be regarded as working robots, so the question is how to draw boundaries. Not an easy task! Thanks for your comment, Peter. Peter, you make some terrific points. I think it’s possible to take an appropriately personal interest in people at work… A warm professional relationship. The tough part comes in defining where the line is between appropriate and inappropriate. And people will likely vary widely as to where the line is. Few if any of us would want to be regarded as working robots, so the question is how to draw boundaries. Not an easy task!

Thanks for your comment, Peter.

]]> By: peter vajda http://lifeatthebar.com/blog/index.php/2007/11/19/relationship-or-one-night-stand-how-law-firms-view-associates-and-clients-2/comment-page-1/#comment-1732 peter vajda Tue, 20 Nov 2007 19:05:37 +0000 http://www.lifeatthebar.com/blog/index.php/2007/11/19/relationship-or-one-night-stand-how-law-firms-view-associates-and-clients-2/#comment-1732 My experience offers a simple, but not easy-to play-out, mantra: take an interest in people and they'll take an interst in you. Not an interest that comes only when it's convenient, or when one needs something from someone (i.e, a "faux" or phony interest), but a deep and abiding interest. A personal interest. Unfortunately, the "this is a business" mantra often trumps (Trump? interesting word...hmmm) the personal interst and what's left is the business/professional interest. Lots of folks maintain that one cannot and should not cultivate personal relationships at work; that professional relationships must prevail at all cost. So, what's the cost? What's right about not cultivating appropriate personal relationships at work? Something must be "right" about it as many choose not to. My experience offers a simple, but not easy-to play-out, mantra: take an interest in people and they’ll take an interst in you. Not an interest that comes only when it’s convenient, or when one needs something from someone (i.e, a “faux” or phony interest), but a deep and abiding interest. A personal interest. Unfortunately, the “this is a business” mantra often trumps (Trump? interesting word…hmmm) the personal interst and what’s left is the business/professional interest. Lots of folks maintain that one cannot and should not cultivate personal relationships at work; that professional relationships must prevail at all cost. So, what’s the cost? What’s right about not cultivating appropriate personal relationships at work? Something must be “right” about it as many choose not to.

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